The holidays can be both enjoyable and stressful when you are dealing with a chronic illness. I’ve learned that boundaries are important. I’m not always the best at enforcing my boundaries, but after being sick for the past four months, I need to be extra cautious with my health.
🎄You may want to do everything festive, but is okay to say “No”. If I say, “No” to something, please respect it. Don’t try to convince me I will have fun if I try, or I only have to participate for a little bit. Personally, I say no when I am in pain or out of “energy” it’s important to not push myself. Pushing myself leads to pain and extreme fatigue. I know my limits. Please accept my boundaries.
⏰Give me notice: I often struggle to do things spur of the moment. If you want me to meet you over the holidays, you have to give me more than a few minutes’ notice. I know things pop up, and I am okay that I can’t make it. If I am going out at night, I need to rest during the day. Don’t stop calling for those last minute get-togethers; just be aware that I will often say no.
🗣️Be my friend, not my doctor: Let’s not chat about remedies or cures or tell me I’m sick because I’m vaccinated. You are not my doctor. Talk to me about work, kids, school, and life.
😷Be social but safe: Understand that big gatherings can cause me to risk my health. If I am up to it, I may mask up to attend. My health is fragile after 4 months of illness, and I have to put myself first. I’d love to gather together, and it makes me sad that I can’t always do it. Don’t rub it in by giving me a hard time.
📲Don’t forget about me: Life gets busy. I may not always be able to get together, but a simple text or call letting me know you care how I am doing means a lot. Fill me in on your life. Just because my life is limited at times doesn’t mean I don’t like hearing about yours.
🎁The key is to enjoy the holidays any way you like. Spend time with family, friends, or pets. There is no right or wrong. Be you, do something to make yourself happy, and be merry.🎅🏻